First dates can be really tough! You have to figure out what you’re going to wear, what you want to order (something easy to eat or just go for something delicious like the best burger in NYC?). Then there’s what you’re going to talk about!

On a first date, you’re basically presenting yourself to someone. Part of that is how good of a time you have on the date, and that relies heavily on good conversation.

Having a good conversation is not only nice but a refined skill that will likely lead to a second date. The easiest way to have a great date is to ask your date about themselves or interesting questions.

Long silences are never good, so keep the conversation flowing and actively listen to what your date says. Because at the end of the day, while you may not be right for each other, everyone wants a partner who listens to them and can hold a great conversation.

Read on to find out how to keep the first date moving and get ideas for a few questions you might ask them. You may feel like you are prying, but prying questions are only those that deal with inappropriate topics really. Sticking to common, comfortable topics is always a great bet, and people are happy to feel like someone wants to listen to what they are saying. Scroll down and find out more!

How was your day?
Asking someone about their day shows your interest in what their daily life is like and how they actually are feeling. Caring enough to ask is always a good sign and it’s just a great question to start off the date with. Plus, it gives you a really good insight into their daily life and what they are like as a person, as it’s kind of a Rorschach test for their personality.

What’s one of your all time favorite movies?
You can find out if your media loves are compatible and if you love their favorite movie, you will become their newest most highly esteemed person in the world. If you can quote the movie, you’re pretty much guaranteed a second date– and it’s a sign that you’re somewhat of a match, right?

If you could vacation anywhere, where would you go?
This is a fun question to ask anyone, and easy to answer. Plus, it’s better to find out now whether he’s a Miami guy and you prefer the Colorado slopes– your vacation styles need to be compatible if you get into a relationship and want to make a weekend getaway!

What’s your favorite thing to do when staying in?
Find out if they’re into woodworking or binge watching Netflix with sushi– the important stuff!

Do you have pets?
Let your date revel in their love for a pet! Or bond over your mutual inability to want a pet at the current moment– whatever!

These are our choices for light date questions. Remember, never ask about past relationships or the ex– it’s a great way to tank a first date. Save that for the second and let your first be all about discovering if there’s chemistry and finding out who they are as a person. You’ll be glad you did.